Timely question. I am the first black man to ever be appointed to a Governor's Transition team in my state's history. There are 32 people. I am number 32 in terms of power and there is a large gulf between me and person number 22.

At first I was stunned when things went sideways in our first working group meetings. Everyone was differing to the billionaire in our small group. It took me about 20 minutes to appreciate what was going on and then prepare a counter-measure to move the conversation to areas where I was the subject matter expert in the transition team.

I say that because I could have gone along to get a long. However, I am fighting for people that can really improve my state. Some of these people are trying to get people in power so business continues as usual.

So knowing I was on the side of right I knew that if I could move them off their areas of comfort through technology (I am the youngest person in my sub group by about 8 years.) I could create an advantage.

The how that you reference is teaching my daughter to search for weakness in their opposition and then capitalize on those issues. I also started framing problems in ways that pushed back on the others. When I started getting more confidence it started to spread.

The how is teaching my daughter that every job their will be 80% of the job the boss loves to do, and 20% they hate to do. Find out what that 20% is and become good at it. That is how I am on this transition team.

It is also modeling to my daughter what it means to interact with power and wield power.

I appreciate this question and you reading what I wrote. Allow me to really think about concreate and tangible action steps of the how.