In exploring whiteness I often come back to the words of James Baldwin, in his essay/book entitled: The Fire Next Time. Where he states, that as long as white people need a N____er, I will be a N_____er. I think of why am I still needed to be that? The boundries you discuss are clear to me as a child, attending a predominately white school. Where the children would touch my hair, but if it was recporicated there would be drama. This two sets of rules are quite common in our society. Your piece has given me a lot to interrogate.